Sunday, September 25, 2011
Taking a break
I have let my memberships expire on chemistry and match. I am still out there on a couple of them, but honestly after this run I am just hopeless. It seems like all I'm finding are extreme cheapskates looking for FWB. I'm going to start going to more community events and getting out more. At this point, I'm just about ready to resign myself to a life of solitude and dieing alone in a nursing home somewhere. I'm not at all sure that I am meant to share my life with anyone. If I get really lonely, I will do the craigslist thing. But, that seems like scraping the bottom of the barrel to me for some reason.
It's not you.....it's me
Sigh. Remember the guy who believes in aliens? Bill. I heard from him on Sunday and Monday night. After that, he stopped calling. I had no idea what happened. So the following email exchange ensued:
From: Ginger Phillips
To: wwm1138@comcast.net
Sent: Sat, 24 Sep 2011 13:55:48 -0000 (UTC)
Subject: Re: new pic
Ginger
From: "wwm1138@comcast.net" <wwm1138@comcast.net>
To: Ginger Phillips
Sent: Saturday, September 24, 2011 2:17 PM
Subject: Re: new pic
Ginger
From: Ginger Phillips
To: wwm1138@comcast.net
Sent: Sat, 24 Sep 2011 13:55:48 -0000 (UTC)
Subject: Re: new pic
Haven't heard from you in a while.
Just wanted to say hi.
From: "wwm1138@comcast.net" <wwm1138@comcast.net>
To: Ginger Phillips
Sent: Saturday, September 24, 2011 2:17 PM
Subject: Re: new pic
I didn't think you wanted to hear from me,i asked if you would call me the next night and you never did,it just seemed like i was doing all of the pursuing to use your term , when i did not hear back from you i thought you were not interested,it did give me some time to think,with the way work has been going and i have to save any extra money i have to go to a wedding in colorado at the end of next month i really don't have any extra money to do the whole dating thing,You deserve more out of a relationship,I am sure you want to go to dinners and the tours you like,all i can offer you really is companionship and a lover and you probably want more out of a relationship than that,
Anyway if i don't hear back from you i understand,this has nothing to do with you it is me
Bill
Anyway if i don't hear back from you i understand,this has nothing to do with you it is me
Bill
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Here's my response to him:
I never even heard you ask me to call you. I am surprised that I would agree to that. I must have misunderstood you. I know that women up here have no problem taking on a more masculine role.
It's interesting that you think you are doing all the pursuing and you don't like that. This is contrary to everything I have known. It's my understanding that men like to go after what they want. Usually when they don't they are not truly interested. To quote a very popular book that most women have read, "He's just not that into you."
Sorry to hear about your financial woes. I think the economy affects us all. You have only yourself to take care of. It takes on a whole different dynamic when you have kids.
Sunday, September 18, 2011
A strange Saturday...
I had been texting with a man named Ed all week. Sometimes for hours at a time. He decided he wanted to meet on Saturday. No problem. We couldn't agree on a place so we left it up in the air. So, he called me Saturday mid morning while I was out running errands. He asked me where I'd like to meet and I explained that I was really hungry since I had a light supper and didn't eat breakfast. I mentioned that Happy Days Diner was great. It's on the 30Bus (easy to get to for both of us) and that they had a really good buffet. I then threw out the Station Taproom. He kept hemming and hawing and threw out Starbucks. We had been on the phone about an hour at this point and were laughing and having a good time. So, I didn't feel uncomfortable telling him that statistics show that you never have a 2nd date after "coffee". He said why? I explained that I had read a few books about online dating and that women perceive it in a bad way. He wanted to know more. So, I said, "I'm not saying this about YOU, but women think that the man is a cheapskate who only wants to have coffee." Well, he decided that he was offended by that and he didn't want to meet me now. And, he went on and on and on for over an hour. He told how he had spent thousands of dollars on dinners and trips. It was ridiculous. NEXT!
So, I had also been emailing and texting with a man named Bill. He wanted to go to dinner and meet me. Ok. So, we went to the Station Taproom. It was very nice and I really enjoyed talking to him. We shared the same views politically and things were were going well. So, I went home after dinner and told him he could call me. We talked about various things and it was all going well. Then, you can hear the breaks squeal........he believes in aliens. He thinks there could be life on another solar system. He thinks that would blow the lid on creationism. Sigh. Another nut? You be the judge.
So, I had also been emailing and texting with a man named Bill. He wanted to go to dinner and meet me. Ok. So, we went to the Station Taproom. It was very nice and I really enjoyed talking to him. We shared the same views politically and things were were going well. So, I went home after dinner and told him he could call me. We talked about various things and it was all going well. Then, you can hear the breaks squeal........he believes in aliens. He thinks there could be life on another solar system. He thinks that would blow the lid on creationism. Sigh. Another nut? You be the judge.
Tuesday, September 13, 2011
The frantic gum chewer.....surfaces
How could we forget the gum chewer? We met on August 16, almost a month ago. He IM'ed me yesterday but I didn't respond. So, this morning he IM'ed me again:
paramedic5830: So what did you think of our fist get together
gingerphillips: I have to be honest with you Mike, I didn't feel any chemistry. I had a real problem with a couple of things.
paramedic5830: Do tell
gingerphillips: Well, the gum was so distracting for me. And, when you put it on the appetizer plate, that was bad enough, but when you finished your meal instead of getting a new piece, you put that same piece back in your mouth and it just turned my stomach. No offense. And, I also thought it wasn't very nice to order an entree but not get me anything. I don't want you to be upset, but it just wasn't a match for me.
paramedic5830: Well Np, good Lucy with your search....
gingerphillips: Not to mention that I haven't heard from you in a long while and normally when a man is interested in you, you are not on the backburner. Men are fairly aggressive in getting what they want. I feel like I was just an afterthought.
He said something about how I wasn't on the back burner, he's just been really busy, blah blah blah. So, that was that. Hopefully, he'll learn something about the gum. Probably not, though.
paramedic5830: So what did you think of our fist get together
gingerphillips: I have to be honest with you Mike, I didn't feel any chemistry. I had a real problem with a couple of things.
paramedic5830: Do tell
gingerphillips: Well, the gum was so distracting for me. And, when you put it on the appetizer plate, that was bad enough, but when you finished your meal instead of getting a new piece, you put that same piece back in your mouth and it just turned my stomach. No offense. And, I also thought it wasn't very nice to order an entree but not get me anything. I don't want you to be upset, but it just wasn't a match for me.
paramedic5830: Well Np, good Lucy with your search....
gingerphillips: Not to mention that I haven't heard from you in a long while and normally when a man is interested in you, you are not on the backburner. Men are fairly aggressive in getting what they want. I feel like I was just an afterthought.
He said something about how I wasn't on the back burner, he's just been really busy, blah blah blah. So, that was that. Hopefully, he'll learn something about the gum. Probably not, though.
Monday, September 12, 2011
Just not that into him
Chris called me a couple of times during the week and we agreed to a date Sunday night. He was coming from the Shore and underestimated how long it would take him to get there by over an hour. He was nice enough to text me several times so I didn't leave. I don't know. I'm just not feeling it. He was a nice guy. But, there's just no spark there. He wants to go out again on Tuesday, but I don't know. I don't want to waste my time or anyone elses. Maybe it was because he was so late?
Friday, September 2, 2011
Speed Dating
What fun! Last night I tried "speed dating" for the first time. I went to a pub in Drexell Hill that had the bottom floor reserved for us. It was a small crowd because it was the Thursday before Labor Day weekend and people are busy. But, what an interesting time. The girls are seated at a table and the guys rotate around for an 8 minute "interview". If there is chemistry and you would like to talk to them further, you put their name on a card at the end of the event. If they did the same then the matchmaker email's each of you information on how to contact the other person. I should mention that this speed date was for the age range of 40-55.
I had one guy who was very interesting that I have to tell about. His name is Randy. He has brunette hair that is greying at the sides. He is about 100 pounds overweight and is very open about his low-carb diet. We did the 8 minute interview and I asked him his age. He made me guess and when I said around 52, he got REALLY offended. He says that most people think he is 35!! NOT!! I asked him what he does? He's an actor. full-time. Then he tells me that he performs on webisodes. That's his living. He told me that he had a part in "Sex in the City" and wanted to know if I watched that show? I said, no I was overseas during all that and that show didn't fly over there. He got really offended by that!! What a narcissist!! He started telling me that he usually plays younger roles because he has such a baby face. This guy looks just like Chaz Bono, I'm not kidding. No chin. And, definitely not a baby face. I was like dude, c'mon....really? lol
There was this one guy that I seemed to hit it off with named Chris. He is a little geographically undesirable. He lives in Deptford, NJ. That would mean crossing the Ben Franklin bridge for me if I ever ventured over to his neighborhood. You know how I feel about bridges and heights. I'd have to have a Xanax just to get over it. After the event I went upstairs to the pub. He followed me up there and asked for my phone number. I gave it to him and really enjoyed talking to him. He's in hardware. I would say there's chemistry there. I would have never found him online because he is out of my age range that I have listed in my searches. He says that he's 52, and I have to say that he was really good looking. However, he didn't put my name down as a match because the email that the matchmaker sent didn't list him. But, I did get a text from him this morning. So, I don't know. Maybe he'll text again or call? We'll see, if not that's ok. I did enjoy talking to him and it did show me that I can feel attracted to someone again. Haven't felt that since June.
I had one guy who was very interesting that I have to tell about. His name is Randy. He has brunette hair that is greying at the sides. He is about 100 pounds overweight and is very open about his low-carb diet. We did the 8 minute interview and I asked him his age. He made me guess and when I said around 52, he got REALLY offended. He says that most people think he is 35!! NOT!! I asked him what he does? He's an actor. full-time. Then he tells me that he performs on webisodes. That's his living. He told me that he had a part in "Sex in the City" and wanted to know if I watched that show? I said, no I was overseas during all that and that show didn't fly over there. He got really offended by that!! What a narcissist!! He started telling me that he usually plays younger roles because he has such a baby face. This guy looks just like Chaz Bono, I'm not kidding. No chin. And, definitely not a baby face. I was like dude, c'mon....really? lol
There was this one guy that I seemed to hit it off with named Chris. He is a little geographically undesirable. He lives in Deptford, NJ. That would mean crossing the Ben Franklin bridge for me if I ever ventured over to his neighborhood. You know how I feel about bridges and heights. I'd have to have a Xanax just to get over it. After the event I went upstairs to the pub. He followed me up there and asked for my phone number. I gave it to him and really enjoyed talking to him. He's in hardware. I would say there's chemistry there. I would have never found him online because he is out of my age range that I have listed in my searches. He says that he's 52, and I have to say that he was really good looking. However, he didn't put my name down as a match because the email that the matchmaker sent didn't list him. But, I did get a text from him this morning. So, I don't know. Maybe he'll text again or call? We'll see, if not that's ok. I did enjoy talking to him and it did show me that I can feel attracted to someone again. Haven't felt that since June.
Wednesday, August 31, 2011
More Winners!
Today, I just thought I would share a few of the emails that I have received this week.
The first email is from someone who calls himself "Eagles22Fan". For the life of me, I can't figure out why guys refer to their favorite football team for their logon id? I suppose that they think women will find that attractive?
"
Oh yeah!! I wanna get involved in that!!
Then there is someone named "Demetri29":
"looking for someone whos knows how to please a man and like to be pleased in every way. Great at oral and have a great tongue ladies...lol Could turn into more if there is a spark. Very thick and well endowed. Can email pics. Lets play"
What's the deal? In the words of Dennis Miller, "I don't want to get off on a rant here, but........." Gol-leeee!! There were a couple of really nice emails. I will pursue them later. But, I felt the need to share the one's that make me say, "Oh no he didn't.....!!!"
The first email is from someone who calls himself "Eagles22Fan". For the life of me, I can't figure out why guys refer to their favorite football team for their logon id? I suppose that they think women will find that attractive?
"
Oh yeah!! I wanna get involved in that!!
Then there is someone named "Demetri29":
"looking for someone whos knows how to please a man and like to be pleased in every way. Great at oral and have a great tongue ladies...lol Could turn into more if there is a spark. Very thick and well endowed. Can email pics. Lets play"
What's the deal? In the words of Dennis Miller, "I don't want to get off on a rant here, but........." Gol-leeee!! There were a couple of really nice emails. I will pursue them later. But, I felt the need to share the one's that make me say, "Oh no he didn't.....!!!"
Tuesday, August 30, 2011
Skirt Followup
So, the guy who wears the skirt popped up today. Here's the conversation:
wms2466: Hey ginger
wms2466: wms2466 buzzes you!
wms2466: Hello dear
wms2466: I sent you an email
gingerphillips: hello dear
gingerphillips: when?
wms2466: This morning
gingerphillips: ok. lemme check it.
wms2466: OKay
Here's the email he sent me:
So, I go back to IM:
gingerphillips: are you steve williams?
wms2466: yes
gingerphillips: whre are you located?
wms2466: I am in cordell in OK
gingerphillips: where do you live?
wms2466: I just told you are you not reading my message
gingerphillips: I can't tell if you live in OK or if you are just there working?
wms2466: I am in Cordell at the moment but i am originally from pittsburgh in PA
gingerphillips: I have to be honest with you, the whole skirt thing was a deal breaker for me. I really don't see a future for us. I'm sorry.
wms2466: And how are you so sure
gingerphillips: it's a no dude.
wms2466: So you wanna go right
wms2466: "wms2466 (wms2466)" signed off at Tue Aug 30 09:41:21 2011.
End of wms2466 buffer: Tue Aug 30 10:27:45 2011
wms2466: Hey ginger
wms2466: wms2466 buzzes you!
wms2466: Hello dear
wms2466: I sent you an email
gingerphillips: hello dear
gingerphillips: when?
wms2466: This morning
gingerphillips: ok. lemme check it.
wms2466: OKay
Here's the email he sent me:
Well thank you for the message you sent to me, dear i will like to start by saying this is a little more about me as i would like to let you know all my life has been filled with pains if you will ask me i will say i live a tragic life... i have no siblings am the first and only child of my parents and i started living alone since i was 29yrs when i lost my father in a car crash on his way back from a night party as my mom was divorced when i was 16yrs old and went to marry another man so ever since life is what it is for me, I take each day like i see it.
I am not a very good fan of this online dating stuff because i do not believe in it, though I am just new to it..that means i would prefer meeting in person and having a conversant conversation, it was a friend who talked to me about it and i also had my son asking me to give it a trial....and i did it because i need to find that other half of me and i wanted to be happy and my son wants me to be happy when i found someone so i decided to give a trial if I can have any luck on there. this is why i contacted you.. i love my son and he is all i have for now until i find the right woman for me... Jay is only 7 and i raised him all by myself.
I think i can relocate for the right woman....... ( FACT )
I have never been married but i have been in 2relationships, I have my Son from the first relationship, the last one doesn't work out...Because all she was selfish and was only thinking about want was want and sex... she wouldn't even treat my Son like her own child, and i was still nice and caring to her most women are not just ready in having a relationship, all they are after is just sex, but i want something more because i am looking for someone honest to settle down...( life partner )I am looking for something real so that's why I contacted you.
i'm a bit of an adrenalin junky at times and like to challenge myself, hence i've done skydive, wingwalk, firewalks. I also love chilling out, meditation and connecting with nature! I love experiencing new things in life and will have a go..I am 6,2 tall average body type,hazel eyes and brown hair...
I'm a Civil Contractor working as a petroleum refining consultant for a large multinational corporation. I travel to Europe,Australia-New Zealand, And Asia on work-related assignments. I love my job for the good money and all less stress at my level i have been doing this for about 13yrs,
but know i look cool and handsome too..Two years from now is just an assumption to me its enough time to settle down and have a wife if God grant us life, and i just wanna know if you think anything close to that. and also i would not am not looking for more kids. but if you want then so be it..? are you very religious ? do you believe in Marriage ? tell me more about your job.. and your every day life.
I like to make my own things more beautiful but i don't want to be the center of attraction..i will really love to hear more from you and hopeful get to know your motives and intension towards me cause i really would want to work towards getting to meet you in person and hopeful see what happens next...Maybe we can go out if you like going out for dance or a drink i mean just anything you like to do for fun. I am open to new things too.
Have a lovely day and take good care of yourself and say Hi to everyone of your friends over there and tell them one last handsome guy is knocking at the door of your heart hoping to come into your life anytime if you open lol..maybe/maybe not it depends on your faith and the truth of your heart towards me......
but i really see this coming because i have been praying to God to provide for me a suitable partner because i do not want to remain single all my life, maybe here you are. who knows.
I hope this finds you well
Steven
So, I go back to IM:
gingerphillips: are you steve williams?
wms2466: yes
gingerphillips: whre are you located?
wms2466: I am in cordell in OK
gingerphillips: where do you live?
wms2466: I just told you are you not reading my message
gingerphillips: I can't tell if you live in OK or if you are just there working?
wms2466: I am in Cordell at the moment but i am originally from pittsburgh in PA
gingerphillips: I have to be honest with you, the whole skirt thing was a deal breaker for me. I really don't see a future for us. I'm sorry.
wms2466: And how are you so sure
gingerphillips: it's a no dude.
wms2466: So you wanna go right
wms2466: "wms2466 (wms2466)" signed off at Tue Aug 30 09:41:21 2011.
End of wms2466 buffer: Tue Aug 30 10:27:45 2011
Saturday, August 27, 2011
Skirts
This stuff is too good for me to make up! Let me start this post by saying that I haven't really felt like talking to anyone this week. In spite of my lackadaisical attitude, I have talked to a couple of people. One person who goes by Sgt John Queen and claimed to be stationed in Iraq. When I asked him which base he was actually stationed out of in the US, he gave me his home address.
This other person, I am just going to cut and paste the conversation here. I really don't care about protecting his anonymity:
Steve Williams: hey
GsFirstKiss: hi
Steve Williams: So how are you today
Steve Williams: and how long have you been on the site
GsFirstKiss: I'm gearing up for Irene!
GsFirstKiss: which site?
Steve Williams: zoosk
GsFirstKiss: a couple of weeks.
Steve Williams: I a pretty new on here as i am only 5days on the site
Steve Williams: have you found any body
GsFirstKiss: nah
GsFirstKiss: i found you!
Show Recent Messages (F3)
Steve Williams: hey
GsFirstKiss: hi
Steve Williams: So how are you today
Steve Williams: and how long have you been on the site
GsFirstKiss: I'm gearing up for Irene!
GsFirstKiss: which site?
Steve Williams: zoosk
GsFirstKiss: a couple of weeks.
Steve Williams: I a pretty new on here as i am only 5days on the site
Steve Williams: have you found any body
GsFirstKiss: nah
GsFirstKiss: i found you!
Steve Williams: hehehehe that sounds sweet
GsFirstKiss: where are you located?
Steve Williams: I am in Mohnton PA
Steve Williams: and you
GsFirstKiss: I'm in Downingtown
Steve Williams: SOunds great
Steve Williams: so what do you do for living
GsFirstKiss: I'm a software engineer. You?
Steve Williams: i am an Oil Spillage consultant a technical adviser in control of spills and clean-up of HCp - HFO of a Petroleum Company I love doing my Job very much and like to travel alot
GsFirstKiss: I would think you would live near the gulf then not in the middle of Pennsylvania. lol
GsFirstKiss: r u there?
Steve Williams: lol
Steve Williams: I dont get to work currently because i get called up for my job and sometimes it has to let me travelling
Steve Williams: have you ever traveled out of the states?
GsFirstKiss: I lived in the UK for 2+ years in my 30s and have traveled Europe extensively.
Steve Williams: That sounds lovely
Steve Williams: I have been to New Zealand and some other southern part of the work
Steve Williams: world*
GsFirstKiss: so what do you do when you are not doing oil clean up stuff?
Steve Williams: I do work from home
Steve Williams: and some other paper works for companies
GsFirstKiss: I do the software behind Video on Demand
Steve Williams: how long have you been doing that
GsFirstKiss: I've been in software since I graduated. Been doing VOD since December.
Steve Williams: do you like your job ?
GsFirstKiss: I love my job.
GsFirstKiss: I have an HD TV and a TiVo Box on my desk and watch tv/video all day!!lol
Steve Williams: Great
Steve Williams: tell me more about yourself
GsFirstKiss: Well, I like to shoot guns. lol
GsFirstKiss: I grew up in Arkansas.
GsFirstKiss: I like to go into the city.
GsFirstKiss: I like to travel.
GsFirstKiss: Love to go out to eat. Can stay in too.
GsFirstKiss: Tell me about you.....
Steve Williams: well I am fiercely independent but still want to be taken care of and relish in the thought of an abundance of winks, touching, smiling eyes, quick kisses everyday... cherished and priceless to me.
Steve Williams:
I am at a point in my life where all I need are the simple things in life and someone to share them with hopfully a good woman.. I am looking for someone in a similar life situation who is looking for a partner in life.
GsFirstKiss: hang on. Mama on the phone.
Steve Williams: ok
GsFirstKiss: back
GsFirstKiss: ok. your profile says you like to wear long skirts?
Steve Williams: I love the Jersey shore (any beach) in the summer, thunderstorms and blizzards. Winters are great for taking in the beautiful white snow on the trees and cozying up on the couch with that special person...snowball fights are fun too. I am most peaceful and energized at the water. I enjoy walks at the end of the day, working out at the gym and connecting with family, friends and that special person. Live music and exploring new areas is always interesting to me
Steve Williams: Oh yeah i use to like that but its been a while i did it
GsFirstKiss: for real?
Steve Williams: Do you know i am originally fro ukraine ?
GsFirstKiss: that's nice. I'll bet you have a lovely accent. Did you really wear skirts? for real?
Steve Williams: Lol
Steve Williams: I dont do that in public except when i am indoor with my son
Steve Williams: so i just do it for fun for him lol
Steve Williams: i like to make him laugh
GsFirstKiss: look I really appreciate your honesty. But, I have to be honest with you, that's a deal breaker for me.
Steve Williams: how do you mean
Steve Williams: Are you suggesting that i may not have time for you or what
Steve Williams: well if you must know i used to make him laugh more so he will not feel the pain of losing his mother at a very young age
GsFirstKiss: look, I'm from the south and I can't date a man that has worn a skirt. I'm sorry.
Now, if you ain't laughing right now, you ain't right!!!
This other person, I am just going to cut and paste the conversation here. I really don't care about protecting his anonymity:
Steve Williams: hey
GsFirstKiss: hi
Steve Williams: So how are you today
Steve Williams: and how long have you been on the site
GsFirstKiss: I'm gearing up for Irene!
GsFirstKiss: which site?
Steve Williams: zoosk
GsFirstKiss: a couple of weeks.
Steve Williams: I a pretty new on here as i am only 5days on the site
Steve Williams: have you found any body
GsFirstKiss: nah
GsFirstKiss: i found you!
Show Recent Messages (F3)
Steve Williams: hey
GsFirstKiss: hi
Steve Williams: So how are you today
Steve Williams: and how long have you been on the site
GsFirstKiss: I'm gearing up for Irene!
GsFirstKiss: which site?
Steve Williams: zoosk
GsFirstKiss: a couple of weeks.
Steve Williams: I a pretty new on here as i am only 5days on the site
Steve Williams: have you found any body
GsFirstKiss: nah
GsFirstKiss: i found you!
Steve Williams: hehehehe that sounds sweet
GsFirstKiss: where are you located?
Steve Williams: I am in Mohnton PA
Steve Williams: and you
GsFirstKiss: I'm in Downingtown
Steve Williams: SOunds great
Steve Williams: so what do you do for living
GsFirstKiss: I'm a software engineer. You?
Steve Williams: i am an Oil Spillage consultant a technical adviser in control of spills and clean-up of HCp - HFO of a Petroleum Company I love doing my Job very much and like to travel alot
GsFirstKiss: I would think you would live near the gulf then not in the middle of Pennsylvania. lol
GsFirstKiss: r u there?
Steve Williams: lol
Steve Williams: I dont get to work currently because i get called up for my job and sometimes it has to let me travelling
Steve Williams: have you ever traveled out of the states?
GsFirstKiss: I lived in the UK for 2+ years in my 30s and have traveled Europe extensively.
Steve Williams: That sounds lovely
Steve Williams: I have been to New Zealand and some other southern part of the work
Steve Williams: world*
GsFirstKiss: so what do you do when you are not doing oil clean up stuff?
Steve Williams: I do work from home
Steve Williams: and some other paper works for companies
GsFirstKiss: I do the software behind Video on Demand
Steve Williams: how long have you been doing that
GsFirstKiss: I've been in software since I graduated. Been doing VOD since December.
Steve Williams: do you like your job ?
GsFirstKiss: I love my job.
GsFirstKiss: I have an HD TV and a TiVo Box on my desk and watch tv/video all day!!lol
Steve Williams: Great
Steve Williams: tell me more about yourself
GsFirstKiss: Well, I like to shoot guns. lol
GsFirstKiss: I grew up in Arkansas.
GsFirstKiss: I like to go into the city.
GsFirstKiss: I like to travel.
GsFirstKiss: Love to go out to eat. Can stay in too.
GsFirstKiss: Tell me about you.....
Steve Williams: well I am fiercely independent but still want to be taken care of and relish in the thought of an abundance of winks, touching, smiling eyes, quick kisses everyday... cherished and priceless to me.
Steve Williams:
I am at a point in my life where all I need are the simple things in life and someone to share them with hopfully a good woman.. I am looking for someone in a similar life situation who is looking for a partner in life.
GsFirstKiss: hang on. Mama on the phone.
Steve Williams: ok
GsFirstKiss: back
GsFirstKiss: ok. your profile says you like to wear long skirts?
Steve Williams: I love the Jersey shore (any beach) in the summer, thunderstorms and blizzards. Winters are great for taking in the beautiful white snow on the trees and cozying up on the couch with that special person...snowball fights are fun too. I am most peaceful and energized at the water. I enjoy walks at the end of the day, working out at the gym and connecting with family, friends and that special person. Live music and exploring new areas is always interesting to me
Steve Williams: Oh yeah i use to like that but its been a while i did it
GsFirstKiss: for real?
Steve Williams: Do you know i am originally fro ukraine ?
GsFirstKiss: that's nice. I'll bet you have a lovely accent. Did you really wear skirts? for real?
Steve Williams: Lol
Steve Williams: I dont do that in public except when i am indoor with my son
Steve Williams: so i just do it for fun for him lol
Steve Williams: i like to make him laugh
GsFirstKiss: look I really appreciate your honesty. But, I have to be honest with you, that's a deal breaker for me.
Steve Williams: how do you mean
Steve Williams: Are you suggesting that i may not have time for you or what
Steve Williams: well if you must know i used to make him laugh more so he will not feel the pain of losing his mother at a very young age
GsFirstKiss: look, I'm from the south and I can't date a man that has worn a skirt. I'm sorry.
Now, if you ain't laughing right now, you ain't right!!!
Wednesday, August 17, 2011
The frantic gum chewer.....
I have been IM'ing with a person that we will call Mike. Mike was very sketchy about his profession initially. But, he seemed like a really sincere guy so I agreed to meet him at the martini bar.
One thing that I have learned with online dating is that men lie about 2 things: their age and their height. Every single guy who claims to be 5'9" is not being honest. I am just going to accept this as the rule as I have experienced it too many times. I also read it in a book about online dating written by a woman and she said to beware any man stating he's 5'9" is going to be shorter than that. I have to attest, it is true and find comfort in that it isn't just my experience. But, I digress......
Mike gets there and I was already there. It was a really nice night weather wise, so I sat outside. I was sipping an appletini when he arrived. We got the career thing sorted out. He was in the air force and was either a military policeman or an EMT nurse. I couldn't figure out which one. He served 5 tours in Desert Storm. Now, he is an underwriter for warranty policies. And, he travels a lot. He went on and on and on about how great his job is and that he travels a lot. And, that he likes to have fun. Well, who doesn't like to have fun? Honestly, this was a completely boring man in spite of possibly having an interesting background in the military.
He had arrived with blue chewing gum in his mouth and ordered a chocolate martini. He was giving this gum hell. He was chewing on it really fast and I thought, oh he's just nervous. I noticed that he kept the gum in his mouth while drinking his martini. Then he ordered another one. Then, he decided he wanted a chicken enchilada. Now, this is a Tapas bar (serve appetizer portions to share), but they do have entrees. He declined a Tapas to share and ordered a full entree for himself only. I did not order anything but another appletini. After his 3rd chocolate martini, his chicken enchilada arrived. He took his blue chewing gum out of his mouth that he had been frantically chewing on, and stuck it on an empty plate (they give you small plates for your tapas that just sit on each table). Gross. I was grateful that he FINALLY stopped chewing this gum and kinda wondered why he didn't put it in his napkin. I continued to chat while he ate. After he finished, the waitress took his plate, and I kid you not, he put that gum BACK IN HIS MOUTH!! I can not describe what a turn off that was. Leaving me to ask, "OH NO HE DIDN'T". Gross.
At the end of the day, he was a short little guy with red hair. I was just not attracted to him. There was no chemistry there. He hugged me goodbye in front of the restaurant as we were not parked close to each other. It was a strange hug too. It was one of those where he stuck his bottom out and hugged me like his Grandma or something.
One thing that I have learned with online dating is that men lie about 2 things: their age and their height. Every single guy who claims to be 5'9" is not being honest. I am just going to accept this as the rule as I have experienced it too many times. I also read it in a book about online dating written by a woman and she said to beware any man stating he's 5'9" is going to be shorter than that. I have to attest, it is true and find comfort in that it isn't just my experience. But, I digress......
Mike gets there and I was already there. It was a really nice night weather wise, so I sat outside. I was sipping an appletini when he arrived. We got the career thing sorted out. He was in the air force and was either a military policeman or an EMT nurse. I couldn't figure out which one. He served 5 tours in Desert Storm. Now, he is an underwriter for warranty policies. And, he travels a lot. He went on and on and on about how great his job is and that he travels a lot. And, that he likes to have fun. Well, who doesn't like to have fun? Honestly, this was a completely boring man in spite of possibly having an interesting background in the military.
He had arrived with blue chewing gum in his mouth and ordered a chocolate martini. He was giving this gum hell. He was chewing on it really fast and I thought, oh he's just nervous. I noticed that he kept the gum in his mouth while drinking his martini. Then he ordered another one. Then, he decided he wanted a chicken enchilada. Now, this is a Tapas bar (serve appetizer portions to share), but they do have entrees. He declined a Tapas to share and ordered a full entree for himself only. I did not order anything but another appletini. After his 3rd chocolate martini, his chicken enchilada arrived. He took his blue chewing gum out of his mouth that he had been frantically chewing on, and stuck it on an empty plate (they give you small plates for your tapas that just sit on each table). Gross. I was grateful that he FINALLY stopped chewing this gum and kinda wondered why he didn't put it in his napkin. I continued to chat while he ate. After he finished, the waitress took his plate, and I kid you not, he put that gum BACK IN HIS MOUTH!! I can not describe what a turn off that was. Leaving me to ask, "OH NO HE DIDN'T". Gross.
At the end of the day, he was a short little guy with red hair. I was just not attracted to him. There was no chemistry there. He hugged me goodbye in front of the restaurant as we were not parked close to each other. It was a strange hug too. It was one of those where he stuck his bottom out and hugged me like his Grandma or something.
Friday, August 5, 2011
The 4th date this week that didn't happen....
So I was supposed to meet this guy for dinner/drinks last night. He's been IM'ing me all week chit-chatting off and on. At 9:30 yesterday morning he sends me an IM saying hello. We speak briefly as I am working and so is he. Then, at 1:30 I receive an IM saying that he can't make it tonight because he has had a work emergency and is now in DC through the weekend.
Now, I have Trillian software installed for all my email/IM accounts. I can see when someone is online/offline and when they go mobile and even when they are idle. Sparky had been online all morning.
So, I called him out on it. I told him that he could not possibly be in DC. He tried to say that he was. I explained to Sparky that I have seen him online all morning. So, he finally said, "Ok. You found me out." I asked him why he felt the need to be dishonest and just for my own personal feedback purposes why he didn't want to meet me? Never heard back from him. Deleted him from my contacts. NEXT!!
Now, I have Trillian software installed for all my email/IM accounts. I can see when someone is online/offline and when they go mobile and even when they are idle. Sparky had been online all morning.
So, I called him out on it. I told him that he could not possibly be in DC. He tried to say that he was. I explained to Sparky that I have seen him online all morning. So, he finally said, "Ok. You found me out." I asked him why he felt the need to be dishonest and just for my own personal feedback purposes why he didn't want to meet me? Never heard back from him. Deleted him from my contacts. NEXT!!
Thursday, August 4, 2011
I'm not making this stuff up.....
So, I'm on a popular online dating site last night and the following conversation ensued that I just have to put down in the chronicles. Yes, boys and girls, this really happened.....
His name is: Koolblue1
Koolblue1: How are you?
I like your profile and picture. You have a nice smile ;)
I am a handsome guy in the Chester County area. I am looking for a nonserious relationship at this point possibly a longer term friend with benefits type of relationship.
I have brown hair, blue eyes and have a great sense of humor. I am respectful and will attach a picture on this e-mail
Me: I am doing well. You say you are in the chester county area? Can you be more specific?
Koolblue1: Good to hear back from you.
I am in Honey Brook--about 13 miles west of Downingtown. I used to live in Downingtown before moving here.
Are you in the town or outside of d-town?(And, he attached his picture on this one. He's not that handsome as he claims, but ok)
Me: I have no idea if I am "in town" or not. I've only been living here for a year. I'm off the 30 and Wallace.
What's your name?
Koolblue1: Oh ok, I know where that is.
My name is Dave.
How are you?
As my e-mail stated, I am looking for a casual friend with benefits type of relationship.
Are you Interested?(Oh how I love that name! NOT!!)
Koolblue1: Hey Ginny
Did you receive my last e-mail?
Dave
(It was at this point I knew I was dealing with a creep. So, I thought I'd have a little fun with this.)
Me: Am I interested?
I could be if a) we have chemistry and b) I know a little bit more about you.
Are you married/separated/divorced?
Koolblue1: Sounds good.
I am divorced but have a girlfriend although she lives over an hour away and I don't see her very often.
You?
(OH HELL NO!!!! HE DIDN'T!!!)
Me: I am divorced.
Where do you stand with your long distance relationship. Does she come first?
Koolblue1: At this point yes. I see her when I can.
Have you ever done the friends with benefitstype of deal?
Me: Would she know about me?
Koolblue1: Absolutely not...This is our secret.
What are your thoughts?
Koolblue1: Hey,
Just a few more things about me.
I am college educated and have a job in Marketing. I am catholic and am a nice respectable guy.
I like sports, music, and I own a home.
Would you like to give this a try?
Me: Ok Dave. Lemme get this straight. What you are offering is sex with you, and in return I would get to play seconds to a woman some distance away who you are being dishonest with. I would have the pleasure of her scraps.
Seems to me like your right hand should be your best friend. Alternatively, have you considered a prostitute? At the very least, counseling.
Maybe you can find a woman with low self esteem to sign on to this fantastic deal you are offering. I deserve better. So does every other woman. And, your long distance girlfriend deserves better. What kind of person are you? This speaks volumes of your character.
His name is: Koolblue1
Koolblue1: How are you?
I like your profile and picture. You have a nice smile ;)
I am a handsome guy in the Chester County area. I am looking for a nonserious relationship at this point possibly a longer term friend with benefits type of relationship.
I have brown hair, blue eyes and have a great sense of humor. I am respectful and will attach a picture on this e-mail
Me: I am doing well. You say you are in the chester county area? Can you be more specific?
Koolblue1: Good to hear back from you.
I am in Honey Brook--about 13 miles west of Downingtown. I used to live in Downingtown before moving here.
Are you in the town or outside of d-town?(And, he attached his picture on this one. He's not that handsome as he claims, but ok)
Me: I have no idea if I am "in town" or not. I've only been living here for a year. I'm off the 30 and Wallace.
What's your name?
Koolblue1: Oh ok, I know where that is.
My name is Dave.
How are you?
As my e-mail stated, I am looking for a casual friend with benefits type of relationship.
Are you Interested?(Oh how I love that name! NOT!!)
Koolblue1: Hey Ginny
Did you receive my last e-mail?
Dave
(It was at this point I knew I was dealing with a creep. So, I thought I'd have a little fun with this.)
Me: Am I interested?
I could be if a) we have chemistry and b) I know a little bit more about you.
Are you married/separated/divorced?
Koolblue1: Sounds good.
I am divorced but have a girlfriend although she lives over an hour away and I don't see her very often.
You?
(OH HELL NO!!!! HE DIDN'T!!!)
Me: I am divorced.
Where do you stand with your long distance relationship. Does she come first?
Koolblue1: At this point yes. I see her when I can.
Have you ever done the friends with benefitstype of deal?
Me: Would she know about me?
Koolblue1: Absolutely not...This is our secret.
What are your thoughts?
Koolblue1: Hey,
Just a few more things about me.
I am college educated and have a job in Marketing. I am catholic and am a nice respectable guy.
I like sports, music, and I own a home.
Would you like to give this a try?
Me: Ok Dave. Lemme get this straight. What you are offering is sex with you, and in return I would get to play seconds to a woman some distance away who you are being dishonest with. I would have the pleasure of her scraps.
Seems to me like your right hand should be your best friend. Alternatively, have you considered a prostitute? At the very least, counseling.
Maybe you can find a woman with low self esteem to sign on to this fantastic deal you are offering. I deserve better. So does every other woman. And, your long distance girlfriend deserves better. What kind of person are you? This speaks volumes of your character.
Wednesday, August 3, 2011
This is just too good not to write down.....
I received notification on Aug 1 that my divorce was final as of July 26, 2011. I am free from the "bonds of matrimony". So, here I am in my mid 40s and meeting men again. Not only am I meeting men, but I am also meeting men of a different culture. The northeast. When I've shared some of the things that have happened and been said to me with my friends, the only appropriate response seems to be, "Oh NO he didn't!!!". Several people have said, you gotta write this down. It's just too funny. I'm not going to use anyone's real name because I don't feel it would be appropriate. I'm going to try and come up with aliases/nicknames the best I can. So buckle up kiddos here we go......
It is Wednesday today. I dropped the girls off on Sunday nite at their Dad's for his week. That leaves me single all week. I started Sunday nite off with 3 dates lined up for this week.
SUNDAY'S DATE:
I had talked to this guy whom we shall call Rob on the phone a couple of times and we've texted off and on for about a week. He lives an hour and a half away in Maryland and we agreed to meet in Exton on Sunday night at 6:30. I explained to him that this would be wonderful for me because Sunday night's are really difficult since I hand the girls over and that it would give me something to look forward to. Everything was great. Friday night, he texted me around 9pm and wanted to play a "game". Ok. He texts that we should ask each other 10 questions each. I went along but thought it was bizarre/juvenile. After such questions as "What's your favorite flower? What's your favorite color? What's your favorite movie? etc." This game ended close to 11pm and everything was fine. I thought. Didn't hear from him Saturday. Sunday rolls around didn't hear from him all day. Finally, at 5pm, an hour and half before we are to meet, he texts me and says he "doesn't want to do the drive". NEXT!
MONDAY'S DATE:
I had been texting back and forth with a guy for about a week that we will call Steve. Steve was very enthusiastic about meeting. Since, I "had" plans for Sunday night, I agreed to meet him at an upscale restaurant in Dtown for Monday night. He kept sending me texts telling me that he was very excited. At noon, he sent me a text saying "7 more hours!". His enthusiasm was very positive but there was something in my gut kind of scaring me. I was thinking, "WOW! I feel a lot of pressure. What if I don't live up to this guys expectations?" He texted me that he would be waiting in the parking lot. Our date was for 7, he texted at 6:45 saying he was already there. I'm thinking, I like this guy. So, I pulled into the parking lot at 7 in my white Chevy SUV. He is sitting there in a black Volkswagon Touareg. I parked in the spot next to him and rolled my window down. He says, "I just got a call that my daughter has been taken to the hospital. I have to go." Something in my gut was like, "uh-huh". So, I get a text from him after 9:30pm saying his daughter had been in a car accident and had a broken leg. He then texted that he was on his way home and would I like company. I texted back that I was already in bed but I would love to talk to him. Never called. Next night I texted and asked how his daughter was doing (yeah, right) and he said that she was fine that he had just left from being with his children. I asked if he was still interested in meeting me? He took a long time to text back and said "yes, but I need to spend some time with my daughter." NEXT!!
TUESDAY'S DATE
So, I have been texting this guy off and on since November last year. Every now and then I would hear from him. So, we agreed to finally meet. I would drive to Kennett Square and we would meet in a public location. We never set a time. I kept waiting for the exact location and time, but he never came forth with the information. So, Tuesday rolls around and I texted if we were still meeting and he texted yes. Ok. What time? He didn't know. 5:00 rolls around he's still at work. I'm waiting. Nothing. 6:45, I texted and he's still at work. He can't leave because he discovered a virus on his PC. I get a text at 7:30 saying he's home. By that point, I said, why don't we make it another nite? He texted OK.
3 dates that didn't happen. So, I ended up chatting last night with a guy we'll call George. He grew up in this area and lives near where I work. He seemed like a nice guy so I gave him my number to text. Everything was fine and he asked if he could call me? I said yes. So, here's where it gets interesting. He said he wanted to ask me a few questions. No problem. "So, do you like the 3 stooges?" OH NO HE DIDN'T!! Gentlemen, please make a little note here. While you may find the 3 stooges absolutely hilarious, I don't know a woman on the planet that likes them. George goes on to tell me that there is a stooge-atorioum in the area that is open once a month and he likes to visit that museum. NOT Sexy!!! Then, he wanted to know what sports teams I follow. When I explained that I don't, he was quite taken aback. Later, he suggested lunch. I said ok. He then proceeded to tell me how he would pick something up and we could go for a picnic. I explained that I am a lab rat and in a cool air conditioned cubicle all day and would not enjoy being in 90+ temps eating outside. Ok. He'll just grab our lunch and pick me up in his Quad-4 (whatever the hell that is) and we can eat under his A/C blasting. I explained to him that it is my personal policy not to get in the vehicles of strangers. He was like, "I'm not gonna run off with you!" I said, "Would you like your sister to get in the car of a stranger for lunch?" No. I said I would be happy to meet him in a public restaurant in the area. We'll see what happens. Probably nothing.
It is Wednesday today. I dropped the girls off on Sunday nite at their Dad's for his week. That leaves me single all week. I started Sunday nite off with 3 dates lined up for this week.
SUNDAY'S DATE:
I had talked to this guy whom we shall call Rob on the phone a couple of times and we've texted off and on for about a week. He lives an hour and a half away in Maryland and we agreed to meet in Exton on Sunday night at 6:30. I explained to him that this would be wonderful for me because Sunday night's are really difficult since I hand the girls over and that it would give me something to look forward to. Everything was great. Friday night, he texted me around 9pm and wanted to play a "game". Ok. He texts that we should ask each other 10 questions each. I went along but thought it was bizarre/juvenile. After such questions as "What's your favorite flower? What's your favorite color? What's your favorite movie? etc." This game ended close to 11pm and everything was fine. I thought. Didn't hear from him Saturday. Sunday rolls around didn't hear from him all day. Finally, at 5pm, an hour and half before we are to meet, he texts me and says he "doesn't want to do the drive". NEXT!
MONDAY'S DATE:
I had been texting back and forth with a guy for about a week that we will call Steve. Steve was very enthusiastic about meeting. Since, I "had" plans for Sunday night, I agreed to meet him at an upscale restaurant in Dtown for Monday night. He kept sending me texts telling me that he was very excited. At noon, he sent me a text saying "7 more hours!". His enthusiasm was very positive but there was something in my gut kind of scaring me. I was thinking, "WOW! I feel a lot of pressure. What if I don't live up to this guys expectations?" He texted me that he would be waiting in the parking lot. Our date was for 7, he texted at 6:45 saying he was already there. I'm thinking, I like this guy. So, I pulled into the parking lot at 7 in my white Chevy SUV. He is sitting there in a black Volkswagon Touareg. I parked in the spot next to him and rolled my window down. He says, "I just got a call that my daughter has been taken to the hospital. I have to go." Something in my gut was like, "uh-huh". So, I get a text from him after 9:30pm saying his daughter had been in a car accident and had a broken leg. He then texted that he was on his way home and would I like company. I texted back that I was already in bed but I would love to talk to him. Never called. Next night I texted and asked how his daughter was doing (yeah, right) and he said that she was fine that he had just left from being with his children. I asked if he was still interested in meeting me? He took a long time to text back and said "yes, but I need to spend some time with my daughter." NEXT!!
TUESDAY'S DATE
So, I have been texting this guy off and on since November last year. Every now and then I would hear from him. So, we agreed to finally meet. I would drive to Kennett Square and we would meet in a public location. We never set a time. I kept waiting for the exact location and time, but he never came forth with the information. So, Tuesday rolls around and I texted if we were still meeting and he texted yes. Ok. What time? He didn't know. 5:00 rolls around he's still at work. I'm waiting. Nothing. 6:45, I texted and he's still at work. He can't leave because he discovered a virus on his PC. I get a text at 7:30 saying he's home. By that point, I said, why don't we make it another nite? He texted OK.
3 dates that didn't happen. So, I ended up chatting last night with a guy we'll call George. He grew up in this area and lives near where I work. He seemed like a nice guy so I gave him my number to text. Everything was fine and he asked if he could call me? I said yes. So, here's where it gets interesting. He said he wanted to ask me a few questions. No problem. "So, do you like the 3 stooges?" OH NO HE DIDN'T!! Gentlemen, please make a little note here. While you may find the 3 stooges absolutely hilarious, I don't know a woman on the planet that likes them. George goes on to tell me that there is a stooge-atorioum in the area that is open once a month and he likes to visit that museum. NOT Sexy!!! Then, he wanted to know what sports teams I follow. When I explained that I don't, he was quite taken aback. Later, he suggested lunch. I said ok. He then proceeded to tell me how he would pick something up and we could go for a picnic. I explained that I am a lab rat and in a cool air conditioned cubicle all day and would not enjoy being in 90+ temps eating outside. Ok. He'll just grab our lunch and pick me up in his Quad-4 (whatever the hell that is) and we can eat under his A/C blasting. I explained to him that it is my personal policy not to get in the vehicles of strangers. He was like, "I'm not gonna run off with you!" I said, "Would you like your sister to get in the car of a stranger for lunch?" No. I said I would be happy to meet him in a public restaurant in the area. We'll see what happens. Probably nothing.
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