Sweet Beginnings

I'm not feeling particularly loved right now.  I think I was already down a little bit when that matchmaker called me AGAIN.  She just wanted me to know that she is allied with Premier Match and they both checked their databases and there is just no one interested in driving out to Downingtown.  Then, she had to throw in that none of her clients want to date anyone with small children or anyone as tall as me.  Jeesh.  I could have lived without this information.  I'm sorry but this was smeared in my face the first call and now she has to take her foot and stomp it in.  I mean, I appreciate the honesty and all.  But, talk about harsh.  Jeesh.

Oh, but she is going to advertise in West Chester next week and she'll keep me in mind.  I said, Gee thanks.

More on matchmakers....

My friend told me about a matchmaker in this area that I should call before investing a chunk of money into "It's Just Lunch".  So, I called on Saturday and left her a voice mail.  She's called me back several times and we keep missing each other.  Finally, we caught up with each other just before lunch today.  She's been doing this for 27 years and charges $200.  She works closely with a company called Premier Match and they share databases.  They are an alliance but PM charges a whole lot more.  So, I asked her a few questions and she told me that they have about 500 people in the database and there is a shortage of women my age.  Ok.  So, once she started talking to me and asking about me, she turned me down as a client. 

She told me I am too tall.  Most of the men in her database are 5'10".  She said, "Girls your height always want a man over 6 feet."  Then, she told me that I live too far out.  Most of her clients would not drive out to Downingtown.  Then, she told me that 3 children is too much.  She said that most of her clients request someone with grown children or if they have a dependent child at home, there should only be one.

I really couldn't believe it.  On the one hand I appreciate her honesty.  However, I find it really difficult to swallow all that she said.  I know for a fact that my friend used her and she lives in Downingtown.  She's not as tall as me, granted.  But, still.  It was really bizarre because this woman had left me about 5 voice mails from Saturday till Monday lunch.  VERY long and detailed vm's about how she needed women, etc.  I felt so......hopeless.

Idea I'm toying with

I haven't been on here in a long time.  I just read my last post and boy was I down!  I'm ok right now.  I haven't been on a date in probably 5 months and I'm good with just being alone right now.  I don't feel particularly lonely.  I just decided that online dating was just not for me.

After a little bit of research, I discovered that women in their mid 40s are overrun in the populace.  Apparently, men in their mid 40s prefer to date women in their 30s and even 20s.  So, generally speaking, since men prefer much younger women, I should target the men in their 50s.  I would probably have a better chance with that than men my own age because I'd be competing with 30 somethings.  But, there is the matter of going too much older than me.  Once men hit 55 they are concerned with retirement and not putting 3 kids through college.....probably not a good match.

With that in mind, when I was on an airplane recently I picked up the airline magazine and read about "It's Just Lunch".  I'd had it mentioned to me by my friend, Amy as well.  After I called them and found out how much they charge, I was very hesitant.  They charge a small fortune for their membership.  Plus, there are so many scams in that industry. 

But, then I got to thinking, the high cost of this service will mean that the married men and players are going to be weeded out.  They say they run a background check on these men and if there are any sexual related crimes or domestic violence crimes on their record they are denied membership.  Could that be true?

So, they have a list of restaurants that they are partnered with in the area.  I am going to call those restaurants and see if they indeed work with IJL and how frequently they have guests before I decide anything.  I will let you know.  If you have any suggestions, please comment!!!