Thursday, May 31, 2012


So Lisa called and said she got my email.  She absolutely would NOT consider arranging a meeting between Jerry and myself anywhere other than downtown Philadelphia since he is coming from Jersey.  She also said that this would be counting as one of my matches.  I think she said that because she wanted to bully me into it hoping I would go "oh! well then I will drive into the city blah blah blah".  So, I said to her, oh well and shrugged my shoulders.  She said that they would definitely keep this in mind for my future matches and the way she said it was more like a threat.  More like a "you'll be sorry" tone.  And, she kept stressing that the city is their "main territory". 

Oh, and I did ask her what makes him such a good match for me.  She said that she didn't have the information in front of her.  Then, she stated that she doesn't set the matches up.  They have a "team" that makes those decisions. 

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

IJL - Jerry

So, Lisa called today and said that my next match is a person named Jerry.  She didn't tell me his age or anything else, only that he lives in Jersey.  So, she wants to set up the meeting in the city.  I told her I was not comfortable with that and she mostly ignored me going on and on about the valet parking.  I don't know.  My stance on the subject is why should I drive all the way into the city just to get rejected?  I mean, how is this guy going to be any different from the men that I have met recently?  So, I told her I am available June 23 and that is basically it for the month of June.  Then, I got to thinking about it some more tonight and sent her the following email:

 Hi Lisa,

I've given much thought to our conversation earlier today, and I am just not comfortable
driving by myself into the city.  Being new here from out of state, I am not familiar enough
with these places to drive my big SUV down there, alone.  I had no problem driving all the way
to Quakertown for the last date because it was off the turnpike, but I just can't do the city.
Also, I'm not sure that it would be a good match for me with Jerry.  I have a serious fear of
bridges.  I can not drive over that bridge.  I have anxiety attacks when I go over bridges that
tall.  I can not help it.  I can't deal with it.

If Jerry would like to meet me outside of the city somewhere or even in King of Prussia, I
am open to that.  But, I just can't go into the city right now.  Please bear this mind for future
dates as well.  I look forward to meeting my new matches!

She'll probably think I'm a nut job because I can't drive over that Ben Franklin bridge.  It is a very very tall bridge and I am deathly afraid of heights.  I break out in a cold sweat and panic.  It's not pretty.  And, there are parts of Philly that are pretty scary and with my sense of direction, I am not going to do it right now.  Turn me loose on a Saturday night in downtown Philly by myself, Lord only knows what will happen to me.  lol.  Maybe she'll just quit and refund my money.  Fat chance.

Monday, May 21, 2012

Gary Resurfaced

Well, well well.  Ok.  Gary and I were supposed to have dinner on Thursday.  That morning and afternoon he kept texting.  We were on, then we were off, then we were on, then off, on, get the picture.  By about 2pm I finally texted, "Let's just reschedule".  I went out with my BFF that night and forgot about the whole thing.  He called, he texted, and after 3 voice mails he finally quit calling.  I didn't hear my phone ring anyway.

I thought he went away.  Didn't hear from him for a while, then he suddenly called again.  He called a lot.  Long story short, the man is a habitual liar.  There are no telling how many lies I caught this guy in.

He texted me Saturday morning from another woman's house.  He was in Washington D.C. with a girl he met off the internet 4 years ago.  How can I take this guy seriously?

I can tell from his behavior that he keeps a string of women around.  So, this morning I tried to be nice and say that I thought we were in 2 different places.  He wanted examples.  Then, I told him that I just don't see us together down the road.  It's just my instincts.  He kept on and on.  I finally said, "Look, I'm trying to be nice."  I didn't want to come right out and tell him I thought he is the biggest liar I've ever met and he has absolutely no credentials with me.  So, he became very business like and was sort of yelling.  Basically told me Good-Luck and said good-bye.

I am tempted to put his last name down so that any woman that googles this guy's name will see this.

Turn the page......

Sunday, May 13, 2012


Well, Gary turned out to be a bit of a psycho.  He called me about 15 times a day.  We went out on Monday.  He called me Monday night on his way home.  Tuesday morning he texted me before work.  He proceeded to call me off and on no less than 15 times that day.  Same thing Wed.  We were supposed to go out for Thurs and he suddenly changed.  We were on, then we were off, on, off, on, off.  So, after a bunch of exchanged texts, I finally said let's reschedule.  I went out with my bff and he called and left 3 voice mails.  Then, poof, he was gone.  Haven't heard from him since.  His story was a bit suspect since he claims to be the CFO of this property management estate, he said that one of the apartments had flooded and the tenant had no renter's insurance.  So, he went to check out the damage himself thursday morning.  He claimed that he had to meet with the flood insurance adjuster at 7pm thurday night.  My bff from college just happens to be a flood adjuster and I told her the whole story detail by detail and she assured me that she had never met with a CFO.  She just happened to be at a FEMA conf at the time! 

So, the matchmaker fixed me up with a different Mark.  This Mark is only 40 years old.  We talked a couple of times over the phone and he seemed like a nice man.  So, we met for dinner at a Tapas Bar.  I have never been so bored in my life.  All he could talk about was sports.  I told him repeatedly that I don't follow organized sports.  He went on and on.  I finally shrugged my shoulder.  Then, he started talking about stadiums.  Again, clueless.  I told him I knew about the SuperDome in New Orleans due to Hurricane Katrina.  He looked astounded.  lol.  I now know that the Minnesota Vikings are building a billion dollar stadium.  I have no idea if this is basketball, football, hockey, or whatever.  And, do not write to me informing me.  I don't want to take up memory in the hard drive with this useless knowledge.  lol  Outside of sports, he could not hold a conversation.

He had never eaten an oyster, so we ordered a single oyster for him to try.  He says he likes mussels but didn't like the oyster enough to order them.  Then, because it's tapas we ordered 3 small plates to share.  This concept was lost on him.  One of the dishes was a shrimp concoction in some sort of tomato sauce.  He put the shrimp on his plate and then picked it up with his fork to eat it and opened his mouth real wide.  I said, "Honey, don't eat the tail."  But, that wasn't even the moment that made me say OH NO HE DIDN'T.

When the bill came, he hovered over it.  He took his card out and held it in his hand for at least 10 mins with the bill in front of his chest.  He was playing with the card.  He was flipping it this way and that and kinda peeking down at the bill every few seconds or so.  I finally said, "I think you are going to have to put that in the little flap and lay it to the side.  They are not going to come get it as long as you are holding it."  He informed me that he had paid a bill before.  I shrugged and said that I didn't know if he thought we had to go up front and pay like you do at a diner or whatever, the server takes it for you. 

So, the check comes back.  The bill was $36.84.  How do I know this piece of information you might ask?  Bear in mind that I have been to this restaurant no less than a dozen times and $36.84 is not unreasonable there.  He asked me to calculate the tip!!!!  OH NO HE DIDN'T!!!  OMFG!!!!  He didn't!!!  Yes, he did.  I brought up the tip calculator app and handed him my iPhone.  This is when he told me that he doesn't have a smartphone or any access to the internet at all.  WOW.

Tuesday, May 8, 2012


So, the whole thing with the Mark guy wanting to meet at Lowe's in Pottstown was just bizarre.  There were other little tell-tale signs that something just wasn't right about that guy.  After much discussion with my BFF and google, we figure he's married or otherwise committed.  Of course, there were small little things that added up to this conclusion that I didn't mention but when you put it all together it makes sense.  His behavior was just too weird for there not to be something there.

But, after all this time, I finally had a good date!  The matchmaker fixed me up with someone named Gary Ray.  Gary happens to be the name of my father and Ray happens to be the name of my BFF's ex-husband.  Gary spoke to me a couple of times on the phone briefly.  He seems very assertive because he set up a meeting right away.  The matchmaker described him as an "Alpha Male".  I'm not sure about that description but I will say that he seemed very much the man.  I suppose that I respond well to that.  He is very decisive.

He was very appreciative of all things girly about me.  He commented on my perfume, my jewelry, my eyes, etc.  He is a little bit older, but actually I don't mind that.  He is financially secure and a multi-faceted person.

We do have chemistry and he is a nice man.  He looks just like Henry Wrinkler to me.  He is Jewish but doesn't like to date Jewish women.  He is also well traveled and appreciates the arts.  Before I left the restaurant he had asked me out for Thursday.  This is nice.

Sunday, May 6, 2012

2nd date with Mark

So, Mark sent me an email and asked me to dinner earlier in the week.  He never called me or texted.  Only email.  We exchanged a few emails and he wanted me to meet him at Lowe's in Pottstown.  Lowes.  Really.  Strange.  So, I wrote him back and said that under the circumstances since I've only met him once before, I would feel more comfortable meeting at a restaurant.  I googled Pottstown and suggested either Red Lobster or Trattoria Vittoria.  Actually, they were the only two I could find.  So, he wrote back:

>  Ginger,      I understand. I thought it might be
>  easier for you to follow me. I was thinking like a
>  TGIF or a place we could sit at for awhile if we
>  wanted. Lets try Trattoria Vittoria. I appreciate
>  where you are coming from. I didn't mean to put you
>  in a bad situation. I will see you
>  there...........Mark

Hmmm.  Fridays?   For a second date?  I don't mean to sound like a bitch here, but this is just all wrong.  And, follow him?  Why didn't he just say Friday's in the first place?

So, we met at T.V.  I was totally confused as to if he wanted to have dinner or what.  The restaurant is a BYOB and he had no wine.  He knew this because he had told me he went to their website after I suggested it.  So, we ended up having dinner.  It was ok.  I wouldn't say that there was a lot of chemistry there.  It was just ok.  But, as we were leaving this very small restaurant, the couple next to us introduced themselves.  Turns out that the man is a State Representative in the Penn State House of Rep's for West Caln Township.  They were very nice and very friendly.  He gave me a Butterfinger candy bar.  lol

So, we left around 8:30 and it was still broad daylight.  He hugged me goodbye and put his hand on my waist a little bit.  Then, he said "I'll give you a call".  My gut tells me that he won't call.  After all, he hasn't called before.  And, after the doctor I'm a little self-conscious about my waist.  lol  Not really.  Well, maybe a little bit.