Wednesday, June 19, 2013

Your gut instinct......

Have you ever just had a dark feeling about someone?  Nothing that you can really put your finger on, per se, just something that's not right?

I finally met Jimmy last night.  He had mentioned sometime last week that he wanted to go to Legal Seafood, which is a fairly nice restaurant.  We kept talking and then once we agreed upon Tuesday, I received a text asking if I wanted to meet at "The Tilted Kilt".  A Pub?  So, I texted that I thought we were going to Legal Seafood?

Ok.  I'm not driving 35 minutes away to meet some guy in a pub.  It felt like the old bait-n-switch to me.  But, this guy is intuitive.  He could tell I was not going for that even though I didn't say anything.  Long story short, we met at Legal Seafood.  I have spent hours talking to him over the phone.  I felt that we had great chemistry over the phone and even in person.  He is an attractive guy.  Says he's 5'11" which is just blatantly wrong.  I've really enjoyed talking to him.

BUT, there's just something there.  I can't articulate it now.  I'm all mixed up.  But, suffice it to say, I don't think I will talk to this guy again.  I just don't think it's a good idea.  It's almost like I want to call him a phoney.

Sunday, June 16, 2013

The Elvis Bling

Ok.  Have you had a good laugh today?  This is one that I have to blog about because it's just too unreal.  So here goes......

Exchanged a couple of emails with Bob.  He had posted on his profile about what an Elvis fan he was, and I was like, oh I grew up in Memphis.  Love Elvis.  And, I do.  He's a part of my culture.  Everybody back home claims to be related to Elvis, for real.  He is still the King and always will be the very best in my eyes.

Bob is a member of the Dead Elvis Society.  He has been to over 30 Elvis concerts as a boy.  He attended the famous Madison Square Garden come back.  He has a scarf that Elvis gave him in Vegas, blah blah blah.

I THOUGHT this was a conversation piece.  I enjoyed talking about my homie.  I respect his knowledge of Elvis and thought it might be nice to meet this man.  He texted me and asked if I would like to meet this weekend.  So, I suggested brunch on Sunday.  I suggested a couple of really nice buffet restaurants that do a big brunch but we settled on Nudy's Cafe at 10am.

I showed up about 5 mins early and he was already there.  I like that.  But, what I didn't like was as I was walking toward the door, I could see him looking me up and down.  I felt like a piece of meat.  Like a steak about to go on the grill, or something.

So, I introduced myself and shook his hand.  His pictures are from 2008 it turns out.  He is quite a bit larger and greyer than his pics.  He was wearing white tennis shoes, cheap black pants, a beige cotton shirt and he was sporting this necklace:

Do I need to say anything else?  
Leaving me to ask the question yet again, "Oh no he didn't?"

Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Bring it on......

It's been a while since I've posted so here goes.....

The thing with Ron dwindled down in to him calling me and mostly annoying me.  I did go out with him one time after my last post.  I really wanted to see the Great Gatsby and he took me.  Just the movie, no dinner.  I did enjoy the movie and was going to go see it again by myself.  I just never found the time.  Unfortunately for Ron, he did not understand the historical settings of the movie (i.e. Prohibition, the Speak Easy, etc.).  A lot of the movie just seemed lost on him.  That's not all.  It turns out that he doesn't know a lot of things.  I made a reference to Der Fuehrer and he had no idea who I was talking about.  I made a joke another time about me living in England and how if it weren't for the U.S., they'd all be speaking German right now.  He had no idea what I was talking about.  I talked about Dr. Robert Oppenheimer once and he had no idea who that was.  I made a reference to Stephen Hawking, no clue.  Ok.  One might argue that so he doesn't know his history or all that much about theoretical physics.  I'll give you that, but the guy couldn't speak in complete sentences.  It just got to the point that I would almost be in a frenzy when we spoke.  He would just stop talking in the middle of a thought.  Aghh.  By the way, he still texts me. lol

So, then I met another person on eHarmony by the name of Craig.  He was moving here from NY.  As an ex-marine he is 5'10" and weighs 290 pounds (he says).  I was open minded even though he would not provide me with a current picture.  I was even open minded when he told me that he was a recovering alcoholic of 22 years.  The deal breaker came for me when he told me that he signed his children over for adoption to their Stepdad.  He had become a dead beat Dad and stopped paying his child support.  He had this reason and that reason, blah blah blah.  At the end of the day, I just had no respect for that.  I stopped taking his calls and he eventually quit calling.

Fast I got off of eHarmony and posted my profile somewhere else.  I stated very clearly what I am looking for.  I hit it off with this guy named Jeff (age 47).  So, I agreed to meet him Friday night over dinner.  He took me to a really nice Italian place.  Loved it.  Since we hit it off, we decided to go to the movies on Saturday.  We saw "The Internship".  Vince Vaughn and Owen Wilson get an internship at Google.  We are both in IT (he owns his own business) so we enjoyed it.  Then, I saw him briefly on Sunday. He was a gentleman and opened my doors.  He is very intense though.  His divorce is not final yet and he seems to have that edge of anger about him.  He is somewhat quiet and well, I'm not.

Not sure if I will hear from him again.  He understands my situation and my availability.  I made it very clear that I can't be there 100% of the time.  He made it clear that he was looking for someone full time and that should it come along for him, he will let me know but until then, we're good.  However, after the weekend he has let the ball drop and we have lost a bit of momentum.  I have not heard from him.  It's Tuesday, but you know.  I found out that his wife is 5 feet tall.  I am just under 5'9".  Sooooo, he probably is looking for a little runt of a woman.  That's just not me.

In the meantime, I have opened up conversations with a very interesting man named Jimmy.  He has written to me several times and just sort of threw his phone number at me.  He never asked me for mine.  Well, you know me, it just doesn't work this way.  Finally, after a few more email exchanges I agreed to let him call me.  Here's the run down: 54 years old, 4 children aging from 14-8, practicing Catholic, own his own construction business with his cousin, he does the sales part of the business, very Alpha.

At 19 or so, he ended up going to a dealer school in Pennsylvania and learning Black-Jack. So, he decides to pack it all up and move to Vegas.  He stayed there for 3 years playing Black Jack apparently.  Married a woman 12 years older than him.  Didn't work out eventually.  All the children are with his 2nd wife who is 12 younger than him.

His Mom had been doing his books for his business and she came down with cancer.  So, he hired a woman that a friend recommended that had been doing the books for a landscaping company.  Long story short, the woman had embezzled over $400K from his company.  Along with a lot of nice things, she had bought Harley Davidson's for herself, her son, and somebody else.  She had been arrested for embezzlement and there was a court date.  Long story short, before they could get in court she ended up going for a ride and was killed by a truck.  It was an apparent suicide.  He had over 100 employees at the time.  I'm sure that I don't know all the details of this, but it ended up breaking up his marriage.  About the time that his marriage broke up, he lost his Mom and his business.  He's on the uphill side now, he says.  lol

There's something about him.  He says that he would like to take me to a place called Legal Seafood when I am available and says that he will wait.  He is not available this week because he is in Ocean City, Maryland doing deep sea fishing off the Chesapeake.  I've been to Legal Seafood several times for dates through It's Just Lunch.  It's a very nice place.  We'll see what happens.  Stay tuned.