This is a first for me. Received this text at 9:16am from nice man Mike:
Ginger was going to call last night but I've been thinking about this dating thing. Between the fact that your ex is a jerk and my divorce process just kicked off I don't think we should keep mtg. I'm not ready and if we kept mtg my heart wouldn't be in it which means it would be about sex. I'm sorry and wish you luck.
Ok
#1. He thought I was going to have sex with him????? That's a bit presumptuous.
#2. My ex being a jerk is the reason he's my ex. That doesn't prevent me from dating. That would be the reason WHY I am dating. I can't see someone who is intimidated by my ex. That just wouldn't work at all. If he knew he could get one in over my boyfriend, OMG he'd work the poor guy over.
#3. I don't think there is a number 3. I haven't responded to this text and probably won't. I'm not sure exactly what to say. I would have never taken this guy out of the "friend-zone" simply because I knew from the get go that he is not emotionally available. He must have an ego the size of Texas.
Whatever.....
Showing posts with label Mike. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Mike. Show all posts
Friday, August 10, 2012
Tuesday, August 7, 2012
Nice man Mike
He's married.
His wife threw him out.
Says he's been separated for 18 months.
He hasn't told his parents that he is separated.
They were in counseling together up until 5 months ago. She dropped out of the counseling and he continues to see the counselor by himself. (insert raised eyebrow)
His story is that he hasn't told his parents he's going through a divorce because his mom was diagnosed with cancer in November and is now in remission. He also says that she has hired an attorney and he hasn't. They are going to try and mediate through HER attorney. Hmmmm. No man who is wanting a divorce is going to agree to this. When you are wanting to end your marriage, you damn well tell your parents. FIRST. And, you hire an attorney and get the crap over with ASAP. You just want it done.
Momma always said there are 3 things a couple fight about: sex, money, and the in-laws.
Long story short....he's done something to piss her off. They have an 8 year old son and a 6 year old daughter. He's very successful so I don't think it was over money. Probably another woman, if I had to guess. He talked a lot about how she was "angry" at her Dad over her teen years. I'm thinking she's angry all right. And, no wonder he thinks I'm gentle. She's from Rochester, NY and is angry over her marriage failing!! No offense New Yorkers, but you people sound harsh to begin with, never mind sprinkling anger on top of that.
I had another very nice dinner. I had nice conversation. I enjoyed his company. And, that will be the end of that. For all I know, he's still living with his wife and kids. He sure wanted to leave around 8pm. Whatever is going on with this man, he hasn't got his walking papers. He's clearly not ready to end his marriage. I have no idea why he is trying to date. Well, yes I do.
WHERE are the honest men? And, don't say church because they ain't there either.
His wife threw him out.
Says he's been separated for 18 months.
He hasn't told his parents that he is separated.
They were in counseling together up until 5 months ago. She dropped out of the counseling and he continues to see the counselor by himself. (insert raised eyebrow)
His story is that he hasn't told his parents he's going through a divorce because his mom was diagnosed with cancer in November and is now in remission. He also says that she has hired an attorney and he hasn't. They are going to try and mediate through HER attorney. Hmmmm. No man who is wanting a divorce is going to agree to this. When you are wanting to end your marriage, you damn well tell your parents. FIRST. And, you hire an attorney and get the crap over with ASAP. You just want it done.
Momma always said there are 3 things a couple fight about: sex, money, and the in-laws.
Long story short....he's done something to piss her off. They have an 8 year old son and a 6 year old daughter. He's very successful so I don't think it was over money. Probably another woman, if I had to guess. He talked a lot about how she was "angry" at her Dad over her teen years. I'm thinking she's angry all right. And, no wonder he thinks I'm gentle. She's from Rochester, NY and is angry over her marriage failing!! No offense New Yorkers, but you people sound harsh to begin with, never mind sprinkling anger on top of that.
I had another very nice dinner. I had nice conversation. I enjoyed his company. And, that will be the end of that. For all I know, he's still living with his wife and kids. He sure wanted to leave around 8pm. Whatever is going on with this man, he hasn't got his walking papers. He's clearly not ready to end his marriage. I have no idea why he is trying to date. Well, yes I do.
WHERE are the honest men? And, don't say church because they ain't there either.
Thursday, August 2, 2012
Finally!!!
I had a nice date with a nice man!!! Not one time did I say to myself, "OH NO HE DIDN'T", actually, I found myself saying, "OH NO I DIDN'T!!!"
I found him online and we didn't write each other but a couple of times. He asked me out for Thursday and I said yes on Wednesday. He looks nothing like his picture, but that is a good thing. He is 6'1" and has blue eyes. He just came back from a Caribbean cruise to St Thomas and he is nicely tanned.
We have A LOT in common. He is very well traveled and has gone to a lot of places I haven't. The place which had the most impact on him was Calcutta. His stories of his experiences there were very interesting. He has been to India 3 different times (Mumbai and New Delhi, as well). He has also traveled extensively in Europe and been to places I haven't, which I didn't think was possible (Dusseldorf and Luxembourg).
So we met at a dive bar across from a parking lot. Once we met, he suggested an Italian place a few blocks down. This was a very nice place. I haven't had a meal that nice in a long time. I had the lobster ravioli in the most delicious red pepper creme sauce that had chunks of crab. He had the spaghetti bolognaise. I think he was better mannered than me. I have no idea why I did this, but when the meal came I took a piece of bread and dipped it straight into the olive oil mixture instead of using the little spoon and putting it in my own saucer. It was a minor thing but I was mortified at myself and did a mental, "Oh no I didn't!" I think I lost myself there because of the conversation. He was very aware of not putting his elbows on the table, etc. And, I caught myself with my elbows on the table. lol
He grew up in Michigan and lived a long time in Chicago, Northern NJ, Richmond VA and now here. He currently works for a large well known company in WC and has 50 direct reports. He says that he wishes he could go down a couple of levels with less responsibility. I shared with him that I am not as high up in my current position as I used to be and it's great! Waaay less stress. He says that he has worked a lot and that probably contributed to his problems (I assume he's talking about his marriage). He has his Bachelor's in Statistics and his Master's in Business or Finance (can't remember). His Dad is a lawyer and he wanted his sons to be attorneys. His Mom was diagnosed with cancer in November last year, hence the family cruise. She is in remission and doing well. I told him about my Mom. Cancer is a bitch.
We just had a lot in common. We are both a little nerdy and intelligent. Yet, we are both NORMAL. He has a 6 year old daughter and an 8 year old son. He gets them every other weekend and this coming weekend is his.
He paid for our dinner even though I offered to pay for mine. He was very much the gentleman about it. He asked if we could take a walk (the borough is very busy with pedestrians as it is a college town). So, in 89 degree weather with a million percent humidity, we took a leisurely stroll through the High Street. He kept walking really close to me and wanted to take our doggie bags to the car. I didn't put it together until he grabbed my hand later. He held my hand. I haven't had anyone hold my hand in such a long time. He must've been a little nervous because in spite of the heat and humidity, his hand was a little cold. He told me that he really likes my accent. My guess is that he finds it soothing and gentle, and different.
After walking for a while we turned around and walked back to the parking garage. He asked me out for next week and said he would text or call. He walked me to the stairs and kissed me bye. Just a little polite kiss on the lips (closed). I also haven't been kissed in a long time and it really threw me. I was not expecting that. I was walking up the stairs to my car and he told me that he really likes my name. I'm pretty sure my face was bright red and I was dazed.
But, my big "OH NO I DIDN'T" moment came next. I am in the line to pay for my parking and there are probably 5 cars behind me. I had no idea that this garage only takes cash and no bills over $10. It was $4.50 for my parking and I had $3.50 cash. The parking attendant was going to make everybody back up and make me park and walk to an ATM. So, someone behind me gave the guy $5 to cover my parking so everyone didn't have to back up. I pray that it was not him. I handed the parking guy my $3.50 and told him to give it to that person and thank them. Of course, me and the parking attendant had a few choice words in the meantime.
This nice man's name is Mike. 8-)
I don't know if he'll actually follow up for a date next week? If he doesn't then I had a really nice date that I haven't had in a looooong time. It was perfect. Everything a date should be. And, it was so nice to sit with a male and not have him discuss Philadelphia sports with me. Gawd, that is SOOO boring. I like the way he was a gentleman, yet he was assertive. And, if he does get a hold of me like he says he is going to, then I think I will go out with him again.
PS. You may remember that the last person I (almost) went out with who had this name was "crybaby Mike". lol Sooooooo glad that didn't work out.
I found him online and we didn't write each other but a couple of times. He asked me out for Thursday and I said yes on Wednesday. He looks nothing like his picture, but that is a good thing. He is 6'1" and has blue eyes. He just came back from a Caribbean cruise to St Thomas and he is nicely tanned.
We have A LOT in common. He is very well traveled and has gone to a lot of places I haven't. The place which had the most impact on him was Calcutta. His stories of his experiences there were very interesting. He has been to India 3 different times (Mumbai and New Delhi, as well). He has also traveled extensively in Europe and been to places I haven't, which I didn't think was possible (Dusseldorf and Luxembourg).
So we met at a dive bar across from a parking lot. Once we met, he suggested an Italian place a few blocks down. This was a very nice place. I haven't had a meal that nice in a long time. I had the lobster ravioli in the most delicious red pepper creme sauce that had chunks of crab. He had the spaghetti bolognaise. I think he was better mannered than me. I have no idea why I did this, but when the meal came I took a piece of bread and dipped it straight into the olive oil mixture instead of using the little spoon and putting it in my own saucer. It was a minor thing but I was mortified at myself and did a mental, "Oh no I didn't!" I think I lost myself there because of the conversation. He was very aware of not putting his elbows on the table, etc. And, I caught myself with my elbows on the table. lol
He grew up in Michigan and lived a long time in Chicago, Northern NJ, Richmond VA and now here. He currently works for a large well known company in WC and has 50 direct reports. He says that he wishes he could go down a couple of levels with less responsibility. I shared with him that I am not as high up in my current position as I used to be and it's great! Waaay less stress. He says that he has worked a lot and that probably contributed to his problems (I assume he's talking about his marriage). He has his Bachelor's in Statistics and his Master's in Business or Finance (can't remember). His Dad is a lawyer and he wanted his sons to be attorneys. His Mom was diagnosed with cancer in November last year, hence the family cruise. She is in remission and doing well. I told him about my Mom. Cancer is a bitch.
We just had a lot in common. We are both a little nerdy and intelligent. Yet, we are both NORMAL. He has a 6 year old daughter and an 8 year old son. He gets them every other weekend and this coming weekend is his.
He paid for our dinner even though I offered to pay for mine. He was very much the gentleman about it. He asked if we could take a walk (the borough is very busy with pedestrians as it is a college town). So, in 89 degree weather with a million percent humidity, we took a leisurely stroll through the High Street. He kept walking really close to me and wanted to take our doggie bags to the car. I didn't put it together until he grabbed my hand later. He held my hand. I haven't had anyone hold my hand in such a long time. He must've been a little nervous because in spite of the heat and humidity, his hand was a little cold. He told me that he really likes my accent. My guess is that he finds it soothing and gentle, and different.
After walking for a while we turned around and walked back to the parking garage. He asked me out for next week and said he would text or call. He walked me to the stairs and kissed me bye. Just a little polite kiss on the lips (closed). I also haven't been kissed in a long time and it really threw me. I was not expecting that. I was walking up the stairs to my car and he told me that he really likes my name. I'm pretty sure my face was bright red and I was dazed.
But, my big "OH NO I DIDN'T" moment came next. I am in the line to pay for my parking and there are probably 5 cars behind me. I had no idea that this garage only takes cash and no bills over $10. It was $4.50 for my parking and I had $3.50 cash. The parking attendant was going to make everybody back up and make me park and walk to an ATM. So, someone behind me gave the guy $5 to cover my parking so everyone didn't have to back up. I pray that it was not him. I handed the parking guy my $3.50 and told him to give it to that person and thank them. Of course, me and the parking attendant had a few choice words in the meantime.
This nice man's name is Mike. 8-)
I don't know if he'll actually follow up for a date next week? If he doesn't then I had a really nice date that I haven't had in a looooong time. It was perfect. Everything a date should be. And, it was so nice to sit with a male and not have him discuss Philadelphia sports with me. Gawd, that is SOOO boring. I like the way he was a gentleman, yet he was assertive. And, if he does get a hold of me like he says he is going to, then I think I will go out with him again.
PS. You may remember that the last person I (almost) went out with who had this name was "crybaby Mike". lol Sooooooo glad that didn't work out.
Tuesday, April 10, 2012
Matchmaker Again
Well she called me back while I was in Memphis saying that she'd like to meet me. I explained that I was out of town with my Mother's passing but would be happy to talk to her when I get back. So, one day last week I drove out to the middle of nowhere and we talked. I was expecting a little old lady that looks kinda of like Dame Edna. Instead, she was around my age and very thin. I will remind you that she was the one that told me she could not work with me because no one was in her database that was tall enough or would drive out to Downingtown or wanted to see someone with children. All that changed apparently. So, we talked for about an hour and a half. The next day she calls me with information for "Mike". I have completely forgotten what all she said about him by now. But, anyway he called me and we talked for about 45 mins. It was all good and I told him that I was available to meet on Monday 4/9. He said "Great, I'll call you Sunday night."
Sunday night came and went. No call. So Monday I called matchmaker and said I didn't think it was going to work out since he didn't call me. She must've called him and told him to call. So, he calls Monday night (the night we are supposed to be meeting).
Ok. I am not impressed. He said that "He forgot" and then he told me that he has relatives in West Memphis and that they are Italian but doesn't know their name. Ummmmm. So, he asks about my availability this week and I said, "I told you I was available tonight." Blah blah blah. So, I said my next available night is Thursday. He is on a bowling league and bowls on Thursday evenings. Ok. So, he doesn't really follow up. He doesn't ask me anything else. So, we got off the phone.
He calls matchmaker this morning (Tuesday) whining about how I'm not really interested and I've got this going on and that going on and I'm just not available. So, she calls me all upset because his feelings are hurt and I didn't jump through hoops because he finally called. I said, "Look, I told him I was available Monday night and he's the one that didn't call. He dropped the ball not me." Apparently, men pay more for her services than the women. So, we've got to keep him happy. So, I'm supposed to call him and tell him of my availability this weekend even though he never asked. So, I did. I left him a voice mail and said that I am available Saturday for lunch. I have a church function Saturday evening but if he would like to meet for lunch that would be great just give me a call back or text.
We'll see. I'm still not impressed. I told matchmaker that I just didn't think he is reliable since "he forgot" and he's really not all that interested or else he would have "remembered". I don't like it when I feel like I am forgotten about. And, I told her, I am not comfortable calling him but I will this one time since she insisted. I expect the man to call me. Period. I do NOT chase men.
Sunday night came and went. No call. So Monday I called matchmaker and said I didn't think it was going to work out since he didn't call me. She must've called him and told him to call. So, he calls Monday night (the night we are supposed to be meeting).
Ok. I am not impressed. He said that "He forgot" and then he told me that he has relatives in West Memphis and that they are Italian but doesn't know their name. Ummmmm. So, he asks about my availability this week and I said, "I told you I was available tonight." Blah blah blah. So, I said my next available night is Thursday. He is on a bowling league and bowls on Thursday evenings. Ok. So, he doesn't really follow up. He doesn't ask me anything else. So, we got off the phone.
He calls matchmaker this morning (Tuesday) whining about how I'm not really interested and I've got this going on and that going on and I'm just not available. So, she calls me all upset because his feelings are hurt and I didn't jump through hoops because he finally called. I said, "Look, I told him I was available Monday night and he's the one that didn't call. He dropped the ball not me." Apparently, men pay more for her services than the women. So, we've got to keep him happy. So, I'm supposed to call him and tell him of my availability this weekend even though he never asked. So, I did. I left him a voice mail and said that I am available Saturday for lunch. I have a church function Saturday evening but if he would like to meet for lunch that would be great just give me a call back or text.
We'll see. I'm still not impressed. I told matchmaker that I just didn't think he is reliable since "he forgot" and he's really not all that interested or else he would have "remembered". I don't like it when I feel like I am forgotten about. And, I told her, I am not comfortable calling him but I will this one time since she insisted. I expect the man to call me. Period. I do NOT chase men.
Monday, March 5, 2012
It's Just Lunch
On February 13, I went on ahead and joined the IJL. It turns out that the membership director is from West Memphis. She moved there after high school and her Mom owned Sharon's lounge. She is now in Ohio but it was nice to reminisce about the big town.
She had her heart set on me meeting this person named "Lon". It just didn't happen. Here is the email that I sent to her:
Lisa and Catherine,
I just wanted to address a concern that I have regarding my membership at "It's Just Lunch".
I joined on Feb 13, and was supposed to have my first lunch date on March 2.
Unfortunately, that has fallen through (documented 2 times, but in actuality this is the 4th time).
Because I share 50% custody of my children
with my ex-husband, I am only available every other week. If we do not arrange for a
lunch date this week (Feb 27-March 3), then my next available week will be March 12-17.
This would put an entire month behind me once joining and before going on my first date.
I guess I don't understand why if Lon has to reschedule that we can't get someone else
for this week/ weekend? Realizing that it is Tuesday, I think it's possible. I'm not tied to
Lon am I? Surely there is someone that we can fit in before the Lon date?
I can't help but feel that I have fallen through the cracks, so to speak or put on the back burner.
Thanks so much,
Ginger
So, she called on Wed night and told me that my first lunch date would be with Mike on Sunday at noon. I will spare you all the details and forward you the feedback that I gave Lisa and Catherine. This is my response to Lisa's email asking for feedback:
No. There's just no way to sugar coat this. Mike is a cheapskate. He ordered ala carte instead of the Sunday buffet stating that it was "overwhelming". He was hesitant to even order ala carte stating that he had already eaten. And, he talked a lot about how he saved money installing his hardwood floors by having the shop teacher at school do it. Now, I know times are hard and all, but seriously. When he shared with me how he takes his daughter on excursions with his metal detector it became apparent to me that we have a different lifestyle.
Also, it is worth mentioning Mike's eating habits. I'm pretty sure that he has dentures. If not, then he has a serious eating issue. It was like watching a horse eat a carrot. All teeth. And, then he stuck his index finger in his mouth to dig something out of the side between his cheek and upper teeth. Ewwww. He was eating scrambled eggs.
For the entire lunch date, Mike sat with his back against the wall of the booth with one arm across the back of the seat and the other arm spread out on the table as if between me and him (not sure if that makes sense). He had his right leg bent on the seat. His body language was very guarded and his body did not face me once during the date. He was very awkward in this way as he sat catty-corner to me the entire time.
I think maybe someone a little taller. Mike is a very petite man with little hands and short arms. Also, I make it a personal policy to not go out with men who make less money than me. I have had very bad experiences with this in my single life. Men are very competitive by nature and it just doesn't work. Also, I tend to be attracted to more generous men. Stingy men are just a deal breaker for me. And, manners (open the door for crying out loud, chew with your mouth closed, etc) are a must.
She had her heart set on me meeting this person named "Lon". It just didn't happen. Here is the email that I sent to her:
Lisa and Catherine,
I just wanted to address a concern that I have regarding my membership at "It's Just Lunch".
I joined on Feb 13, and was supposed to have my first lunch date on March 2.
Unfortunately, that has fallen through (documented 2 times, but in actuality this is the 4th time).
Because I share 50% custody of my children
with my ex-husband, I am only available every other week. If we do not arrange for a
lunch date this week (Feb 27-March 3), then my next available week will be March 12-17.
This would put an entire month behind me once joining and before going on my first date.
I guess I don't understand why if Lon has to reschedule that we can't get someone else
for this week/ weekend? Realizing that it is Tuesday, I think it's possible. I'm not tied to
Lon am I? Surely there is someone that we can fit in before the Lon date?
I can't help but feel that I have fallen through the cracks, so to speak or put on the back burner.
Thanks so much,
Ginger
So, she called on Wed night and told me that my first lunch date would be with Mike on Sunday at noon. I will spare you all the details and forward you the feedback that I gave Lisa and Catherine. This is my response to Lisa's email asking for feedback:
Meeting: Mike and Ginger
3/4 @ 12pm
Brickside Grille
540 Wellington Square
Exton, PA 19341
Exton, PA 19341
(610) 321-1600
We are so excited for you to meet them and hope you have a great time!
When you get there, as a reminder, check in with the Hostess and they will take you to your table. If you are running late or need to cancel at the last minute, please call ahead to the restaurant!
Feedback is very important to our IJL dating process so please don’t forget to email me with your feedback. These are the areas we would like you to focus on when you send your feedback:
- How long your date was? 1.5 hours
- What did you like about him/her? He has nice thick hair.
- What are three positive things about your match?
a. He has really nice thick hair.
b. He was a nice conversationalist.
c. He had a nice complexion.
b. He was a nice conversationalist.
c. He had a nice complexion.
- What interests did you have in common?
a. We both read a lot of non-fiction.
b. We both have daughters.
c. We both like older homes.
b. We both have daughters.
c. We both like older homes.
- What was your first impression?
I had a very positive first impression.
- How did the date end?
He went to the bathroom and came back to the table. We walked outside (he did NOT open the door for me). He gave me a very loose hug like you do your Mom or Aunt. He walked to his car and I walked to mine. I did not see his car as he parked a great deal away.
- Did you exchange numbers?
He did not ask for my number. So, no we did not exchange numbers.
- Do you plan on seeing him/her again? If “no” please list reasons why?
Also, it is worth mentioning Mike's eating habits. I'm pretty sure that he has dentures. If not, then he has a serious eating issue. It was like watching a horse eat a carrot. All teeth. And, then he stuck his index finger in his mouth to dig something out of the side between his cheek and upper teeth. Ewwww. He was eating scrambled eggs.
For the entire lunch date, Mike sat with his back against the wall of the booth with one arm across the back of the seat and the other arm spread out on the table as if between me and him (not sure if that makes sense). He had his right leg bent on the seat. His body language was very guarded and his body did not face me once during the date. He was very awkward in this way as he sat catty-corner to me the entire time.
- What can we focus on for your next match?
Wednesday, August 17, 2011
The frantic gum chewer.....
I have been IM'ing with a person that we will call Mike. Mike was very sketchy about his profession initially. But, he seemed like a really sincere guy so I agreed to meet him at the martini bar.
One thing that I have learned with online dating is that men lie about 2 things: their age and their height. Every single guy who claims to be 5'9" is not being honest. I am just going to accept this as the rule as I have experienced it too many times. I also read it in a book about online dating written by a woman and she said to beware any man stating he's 5'9" is going to be shorter than that. I have to attest, it is true and find comfort in that it isn't just my experience. But, I digress......
Mike gets there and I was already there. It was a really nice night weather wise, so I sat outside. I was sipping an appletini when he arrived. We got the career thing sorted out. He was in the air force and was either a military policeman or an EMT nurse. I couldn't figure out which one. He served 5 tours in Desert Storm. Now, he is an underwriter for warranty policies. And, he travels a lot. He went on and on and on about how great his job is and that he travels a lot. And, that he likes to have fun. Well, who doesn't like to have fun? Honestly, this was a completely boring man in spite of possibly having an interesting background in the military.
He had arrived with blue chewing gum in his mouth and ordered a chocolate martini. He was giving this gum hell. He was chewing on it really fast and I thought, oh he's just nervous. I noticed that he kept the gum in his mouth while drinking his martini. Then he ordered another one. Then, he decided he wanted a chicken enchilada. Now, this is a Tapas bar (serve appetizer portions to share), but they do have entrees. He declined a Tapas to share and ordered a full entree for himself only. I did not order anything but another appletini. After his 3rd chocolate martini, his chicken enchilada arrived. He took his blue chewing gum out of his mouth that he had been frantically chewing on, and stuck it on an empty plate (they give you small plates for your tapas that just sit on each table). Gross. I was grateful that he FINALLY stopped chewing this gum and kinda wondered why he didn't put it in his napkin. I continued to chat while he ate. After he finished, the waitress took his plate, and I kid you not, he put that gum BACK IN HIS MOUTH!! I can not describe what a turn off that was. Leaving me to ask, "OH NO HE DIDN'T". Gross.
At the end of the day, he was a short little guy with red hair. I was just not attracted to him. There was no chemistry there. He hugged me goodbye in front of the restaurant as we were not parked close to each other. It was a strange hug too. It was one of those where he stuck his bottom out and hugged me like his Grandma or something.
One thing that I have learned with online dating is that men lie about 2 things: their age and their height. Every single guy who claims to be 5'9" is not being honest. I am just going to accept this as the rule as I have experienced it too many times. I also read it in a book about online dating written by a woman and she said to beware any man stating he's 5'9" is going to be shorter than that. I have to attest, it is true and find comfort in that it isn't just my experience. But, I digress......
Mike gets there and I was already there. It was a really nice night weather wise, so I sat outside. I was sipping an appletini when he arrived. We got the career thing sorted out. He was in the air force and was either a military policeman or an EMT nurse. I couldn't figure out which one. He served 5 tours in Desert Storm. Now, he is an underwriter for warranty policies. And, he travels a lot. He went on and on and on about how great his job is and that he travels a lot. And, that he likes to have fun. Well, who doesn't like to have fun? Honestly, this was a completely boring man in spite of possibly having an interesting background in the military.
He had arrived with blue chewing gum in his mouth and ordered a chocolate martini. He was giving this gum hell. He was chewing on it really fast and I thought, oh he's just nervous. I noticed that he kept the gum in his mouth while drinking his martini. Then he ordered another one. Then, he decided he wanted a chicken enchilada. Now, this is a Tapas bar (serve appetizer portions to share), but they do have entrees. He declined a Tapas to share and ordered a full entree for himself only. I did not order anything but another appletini. After his 3rd chocolate martini, his chicken enchilada arrived. He took his blue chewing gum out of his mouth that he had been frantically chewing on, and stuck it on an empty plate (they give you small plates for your tapas that just sit on each table). Gross. I was grateful that he FINALLY stopped chewing this gum and kinda wondered why he didn't put it in his napkin. I continued to chat while he ate. After he finished, the waitress took his plate, and I kid you not, he put that gum BACK IN HIS MOUTH!! I can not describe what a turn off that was. Leaving me to ask, "OH NO HE DIDN'T". Gross.
At the end of the day, he was a short little guy with red hair. I was just not attracted to him. There was no chemistry there. He hugged me goodbye in front of the restaurant as we were not parked close to each other. It was a strange hug too. It was one of those where he stuck his bottom out and hugged me like his Grandma or something.
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